A few years ago I wanted to make an effort to eliminate yelling.

I would get frustrated when I had to repeat myself and raise my voice in an effort to get a response. Maybe after 5-6 shouts from across the room I would get a response.

I quickly decided this was not how I wanted to do things. First, the kids get the idea they can ignore us until we get loud and it starts sounding angry and, second, I hate hearing myself yelling. It sounds ugly and not how I want to be.

To change my behavior, I committed to getting up each time I needed to talk to or redirect one of the children, place a hand on him gently to get his attention and then communicate softly on his level. Guess what? It works much better! We have had a much less yelly life since.


There was one bit of yelling left and it was not out of frustration but yelling things to the kids downstairs from upstairs. Things like “come up for dinner!…come up for dinner! can anyone hear me??? COME UP FOR DINNER!!!” Or the kids getting too loud downstairs next to Jason’s office while he is working and I’m yelling for them to not be so loud. See the problem there?

Well, I found the solution and it is brilliant! An intercom! We now have one and it’s working so nicely. The push of a button and I can quietly say “Dinner time, Guys.” and they hear me! yay!

(ps Maybe you’re thinking why don’t I walk my fat butt down there to talk, and yes, I thought that too. In fact, I was doing that some of the time but alas the temptation to yell was too great when holding the baby, working on dinner etc. The intercom takes that temptation away completely.)

And just because no post is complete without a picture, this is one I snapped of our evening activities. Isaac setting up a game of dominoes for us, Lotus propped dangerously on the couch, Simon sound asleep, Luke on his bed. Good times.

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One Response to “STOP YELLING!!!!!”

  1. Kirsten Says:

    An intercom… what a great idea! I also love not yelling, but walking over to one of the kids and the use of hand placement. Keep posting… I’m stocking up on ideas! 🙂

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